Look, I’ve been there too; depression, it gets all of us at some
point or another.
This depression can come from feeling like you aren’t living up
to a certain standard you have for yourself.
For starters, the standards you have set for yourself are the
most important, because in the end you need to be satisfied with
the feedback you perceive from your own actions.
You have to learn to actually LIKE THE PERSON THAT YOU ARE
before basing your identity on other people’s opinions of you.
It took getting into
working out for me to like the person that I was.
With working out came discipline, structure, confidence,
recognition, and all of these newfound benefits began to flow like
a river into other areas of my life.
Women became easy because I truly didn’t care for their approval
I knew the right ones would approve of the person I was becoming
from building my life through bodybuilding as my foundation.
I was pretty broke before bodybuilding and in a way bodybuilding
took a pretty good financial commitment, but I learned to handle my
business while still allotting the money for groceries and
supplements (which can get well over $1,000 a month once you get to
a certain level of development).
But throughout bodybuilding there were still things in life that
anyone would normally have to deal with on top of trying to stay
disciplined enough to hold down a job, purchase life essentials,
and those pop-up things in life that become financial
While dealing with life’s shit on top of trying to stay committed
to the bodybuilding lifestyle, it can still become easy to fall
The gym may be going great, but it can feel like you’re letting
other things slip away from you.
There is a song by the band In Flames (Yes, I’m sort of a
metalhead) called “Like Sand”, and the chorus goes:
I want the whole world, the whole world, the whole world in my
But it’s just slipping through like sand”
That’s how trying to bodybuild and balance life can feel at
times for me!
So today I went to the gym and hit a killer leg workout and
afterwards I used the treadmill on a steep incline setting, doing a
I began thinking about how life was so much of the same shit,
day in and day out.
I looked around the gym and EVERY SINGLE PERSON WAS DISTRACTED
BY THEIR PHONE!
I don’t mean most of the people, I mean damn near
When the treadmill hit the 10 minute mark I shut it off and just
left the gym.
It was time for a new plan; I came home and loaded my dog up in
my Yukon and hit the national park for some outdoor cardio
Fuck that gym full of zombies!
I normally don’t train at that particular gym but I had to
handle something in that part of town and I was in the area.
I didn’t want to drive all the way across town to my preferred
gym due to time constraints.
Everyone was just a zombie in the gym and nobody was working
Also, what’s the deal now with taking photos after people have
been in the gym only 2 weeks and have a shit-ass physique?
I see more pencil necked dickwads snapping photos and looking at
a phone than actually working out now!
That is why I prefer to train at my main gym, which is usually
On my way home I came up with a new plan; all cardio outdoors!
I hit an hour of cardio with ease and felt good about being out
there as opposed to trying to do cardio in the gym.
Our days can blend together so much together that even parts of
gym activities can become mundane.
testosterone can make this even worse.
But even if your testosterone levels are up to par, I believe
more of the problem with people’s depression is a lack of
communication with like-minded people because everyone is totally
out of tune!
Nobody is paying attention to anything
Go try to have a conversation with someone and count how long it
takes for them to look at their phone.
Usually you can get about a good 20 seconds out of them before
they look back down at their phone.
You just cannot establish a relationship with people
Even when the meeting is something that could BENEFIT THEM, they
still cannot give you their undivided attention and they’re all
bullshit people now.
So it’s easy to get depressed because you can sometimes feel
lost in a world that you don’t feel like you belong in.
How do you make your life exciting again?
Aside from working out and making sure your hormone levels
are good, how do you break away from the day to day monotony
I think I figured it out today…the easiest way to break away
from feeling that same old daily grind!
EXPERIENCE 1 NEW THING EACH DAY, THAT IS THE KEY!
It’s as simple as that, each day you figure out something you’ve
never done before!
- If all you do is listen to rock music, try listening to
classical music that day, or the blues, or anything different.
- If you’ve never had a certain food then try it out.
- If you have never danced before then take a dance class (women
love that shit anyways!)
- If you normally do your cardio indoors then do it outdoors
- If you’ve never been swimming in cold January weather then go
swimming outside when it’s freezing cold. You either swim and deal
with it or you fucking die!
Maybe a little, but tell me how you feel when you’re done!
Maybe you’ve never painted before, work on painting an oil based
Try an exercise you’ve never done before, or go for a new record
distance on a jog or a hike!
IT DOES NOT MATTER HOW BIG OR SMALL THE NEW THING IS, JUST
DO 1 NEW THING EACH DAY!
Read a new article each day, pick up a book on building a wooden
deck and study it, or a book on finances, or even a fictional book.
Read 10 pages a night. That’s about the average sized book every
month, and that is 12 books a year.
Think about how much knowledge you could gain off reading 12 new
books every year! Also, your grammar and spelling will stay sharper
because you’re seeing words spelled over and over again.
You will feel excited because you’re experiencing the “NEW”
When you were a kid EVERYTHING WAS EXCITING TO
YOU! It was all exciting because you had never
done it before!
But now life is repetitive, and the daily grind can make us feel
like we are simply floating through life waiting to die.
It can become depressing at times.
I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again, success is
about the experiences and feelings we get of excitement in
life. It’s not strictly monetary gain.
Rich people are depressed too, don’t let the pretty pictures of
perfect lives fool you!
So that is my secret on the easiest way to feel good about life
aside from working out and feeling powerful.
Now, this is going to be a little challenging because you have
to pick 1 new thing each day.
Some things can be small, others can be big.
The larger experiences may cost money so I say to spread them
out among the smaller things so every so often you can hit
something extreme as well.
This could be skydiving, zip-lining, white water rafting,
paintball, or climbing a new mountain and hanging a hammock up
between some trees and just chilling out!
That’s it, that’s my big secret out of the bag, pick something
new and do it, taste it, listen to it, and take life in while
You will become a better person for it, more knowledgeable,
more desirable to be around, and more attractive to
And when you find a woman that is decent and you can let her in
on your life of constantly providing new experiences, she will
become happy to be around you.
Other men will seem boring to her, and in a world full of sheep
you’ll be the wolf!
Women are chameleons, they change colors with the
Provide an exciting life for yourself and let her in on it and
she won’t want to go anywhere else but with you.
Trust me, I’ve been married 14 years now and I know what I’m
talking about here!
Fuck doing the same shit everyday, the clock is ticking
away right now as I’m writing this!
Anyone that wants to share a new experience with me is
encouraged to leave their new experience in the comments.
Let’s help each other out and bounce ideas off one another! Lets
kick life’s ass together!
Experiences and EMPOWERMENT will develop you as a whole
A working unit of knowledge, muscle, and happiness in life! I’m
going to hold myself accountable to this as well.
I’ll go first, today I said fuck the treadmill and walked my dog
through a new trail in the woods around a small lake I’ve never
been around before.
Who is next to share something?